Loneliness is oftentimes associated with the difficult things that life brings. It is sometimes the start of depression. Why sometimes and not all the time? Because, in my opinion, loneliness can also be a healthy agent of life and here are some reasons why.
- Loneliness becomes healthy when it makes you see the reality of life out from your fantasy world. Humans are prone to dream too much, thus, leading to loneliness when that dream is not reached.
- It is a healthy agent of life when it makes you realize the important things you’ve neglected. If you always occupy your time with selfish activities and you don’t give time for your family, then loneliness will tell you where you failed at and where you can pick up the pieces and start over.
- Loneliness helps make you stronger (after your tears and the feeling of sadness). Once the feeling is over, you’ll see the world in a new light. You will appreciate more of life and you will be a more positive person.
Now, this does not mean that we should be lonely. Most of the time, people who are lonely resort to bad things like suicide. So we try to be as happy as we can be!
When you are feeling lonely and you think it’s not a positive kind of ‘lonely’, then you need to overcome it the soonest possible time before it damages you. How do you do that?
- Pray/Meditate – Whatever you believe in, a time alone in solitude to pray or meditate will help release the negative thoughts and feelings that you have. If solitude brings more sad thoughts than happy and peaceful ones, try meditating/praying with a group.
- Go out and play sports – Ask a friend out and go play a sport you know or learn to play a new one, especially if you’re not a sports person. I don’t recommend gambling, in case you consider it a sport – it can worsen the situation, obviously!
- Watch a comedy movie/show – Don’t watch alone if being alone makes you feel lonely. Do you have family members and kids at home? Let them join you.
- Adopt a pet – Pets can give you joy in so many ways! There’s just this certain vibe about them that makes you laugh or annoyed but never lonely.
- Start a garden – Gardening can occupy your time but it can also give you a sense of nurturing as you nurture the plants.
- Listen to uplifting music or podcasts – Stop listening to negative or lonely music. Fill your minds with positive words. These positive words will turn into positive thoughts. Positive thoughts are the enemies of loneliness.
- Change your environment – Find that place you consider to be happy and positive. Some women consider the shopping mall a happy place to be when you’re feeling lonely. Rather than sulk and be destructive, they go shopping! So, find your “positive place”.
There are, of course, many other ways than just these seven things you can do to overcome loneliness. And though we try to overcome loneliness, remember that it is a normal feeling for every human being! So the next time you feel lonely, remind yourself, “I am lonely sometimes because I am human!” Then learn from it and move on.
Alison is a Certified Health and Wellness Purpose Core Energy Coach and she helps people improve their health, relationships, and self-worth. Her holistic approach has transformed her clients’ lives and helped them live the life of their dreams.
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